Because it is linked to our identity and self worth, independence becomes a top priority for those of “a certain age”, a.k.a., “us”. At this juncture, I can’t conceive being anything other than independent. But that quiet little voice inside knows that isn’t true. Dependency is only a matter of time. As much as we hate that thought, intellectually, we have to accept its inevitability.
Consequently, “delay” becomes the game plan. Inevitable is not tomorrow. That means that we need to remove that tiller of control over our lives from the well-meaning hands of the next generation for at least awhile. Although their intentions are properly driven by love, just as we proudly taught them (They will always make us proud!), we need to employ some diversionary tactics to delay their caring assistance.
The very best diversionary tactic we can employ is a network.
Beacon Hill Village, has become role model for neighborhood networks. Chipping in as a group to employ cheerful and efficient social work professionals, this group has created a working support network that permits them to maintain their independence well beyond reasonable boundaries. They nearly achieve the support structure of assisted living facilities while remaining within the familiar comforts of their own home.
Although such a formal network may exceed the means of many, a more casual network of friends and neighbors can achieve many of the same results, i.e. home repairs, household cleaning, rides, errands, meals, dining groups, etc. The geographic section of wikiSenior.com can be utilized explicitly for this purpose. For example, a posting for the 103rd Street Village might read, “June 3rd, my nephew is driving me to the mall at 1 PM and returning at 3:30 PM. There is room for two more people.” Although a neighborhood network does require some formal controls and coordination, a lot can be achieved with a little good will.
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